Dating 101: Green and Red Flags, Your First Fight, Dealing With Rejection
We’ve spent a lot of time on Being Well discussing how to improve our relationships - how to navigate conflict effectively, communicate more skillfully, and create a romantic relationship that’s truly fulfilling - but we’ve spent very little time talking about how to get into one of those relationships in the first place.
This week, Dr. Rick Hanson and I expand our conversation to explore what traits to look for in a potential partner and in your dynamic with them. We discuss life growth curves, how to manage early conflict, healthy approaches for dealing with rejection, and how to support those still navigating a difficult search.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
2:45: Basic green and red flags to look for in a partner
8:50: Pursuer-distancer dynamic
9:45: Shared growth curves--relationship as a process, not a person
12:50: Riding the river of practical daily life
19:25: Someone who brings out the best parts of you
25:25: Different kinds of romantic relationships
28:55: Rejection and feeling wanted
30:45: Asymmetry and power dynamics
34:40: Agency within the pain of rejection
40:05: Recognizing self-worth
45:00: Managing early conflict
51:50: The struggle to find a prospective partner
59:40: Recap
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