How to Find a Long-Term Relationship: Intention, Skills, Marketing
We’ve spent a lot of time on Being Well discussing how to improve our relationships--how to navigate conflict effectively, communicate more skillfully, and create a romantic relationship that’s truly fulfilling, but we’ve spent very little time talking about how to get into one of those relationships in the first place.
Today, Dr. Rick Hanson and I talk about how to maximize your chances of finding a fulfilling long-term relationship. We explore how to develop a clear intention of what you want, the key psychological skills that invite a healthy relationship, and how to market yourself authentically while dating.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:55: What supports people in finding a long-terrm partner?
4:35: Having a clear intention
8:45: Psychological skills to maximize our chances of finding a long-term relationship
12:15: Marketing and sorting through suspects
14:40: Intention expanded
22:15: Psychological skills expanded
22:50: A healthy sense of self worth
26:10: Being aware of your selection biases
29:35: Communication skills
34:30: Seeing the best in one another
37:30: Settling anxious and avoidant tendencies
42:00: Resting in presence with someone
43:15: Not letting the perfect be the enemy of the good
44:25: Marketing explained
55:00: Authenticity
58:20: Recap
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