How to Regulate Yourself with Elizabeth Ferreira
One of the most important skills we can learn is how to regulate ourselves, riding the emotional waves without either ignoring or being overwhelmed by them. Associate therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins me to explore how we can feel our feelings while staying calm, collected, and in control. We walk through two examples of under- and over-regulation, and Elizabeth offers specific practices that might help in each common situation.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:50: Creating safety and connection with a new client
6:30: Therapy as an opportunity for reparative experiences
9:45: Learning to regulate when you have traumatized parts
16:55: What’s helped Elizabeth heal patterns of overregulation and dissociation
23:50: A hypothetical dialogue with an overregulated client
29:10: Titration and traumatic release
33:05: Labeling and accepting emotions, and empowering the “wise adult”
40:15: A hypothetical dialogue with an underregulated client
46:30: Celebrating when we notice our patterns
49:30: Movement, tapping, tremoring, journaling, and other practices
53:55: Finding a supportive community
57:10: Being with your body, and following your curiosity
58:55: Recap
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