Emotional Intelligence: Increasing Self-Awareness, Regulation, and Empathy

Emotional intelligence is considered an essential trait for everything from being a desirable romantic partner to having a successful career. But what do we really mean when we say “emotional intelligence,” and how can we become emotionally intelligent over time? In today’s episode Dr. Rick and I explore emotional intelligence, including what’s “in” it, balancing emotional closeness and distance, and how we can become more self-aware, self-regulated, and empathic.

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Key Topics: 

0:00: Introduction

1:40: What’s emotional intelligence?

4:25: Curiosity, care, and rational vs. emotional decision making

9:30: The five categories of emotional intelligence

11:30: Courage

18:40: Competence, capacity, and application

23:40: Anger, and discerning wants and needs

25:25: Self-awareness

30:20: The stories we invite and are drawn to

33:20: Empathy

44:40: Self-regulation

48:50: Widening the space where the moment of dysregulation occurs

51:45: The feelings beneath the feelings

53:00: Feeling overwhelmed by others, boundaries, and differentiation

1:01:10: Recap

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