Daddy Issues: Attachment Wounds, Dealing with Common Problems, and Becoming Securely Attached
If you listen to a podcast like ours, you’re probably familiar with the phrase “daddy issues.” A more accurate way to understand daddy issues is as a form of attachment wounding, which describes situations where our adult relationships are affected by complicated, difficult, or traumatic experiences we had as a child.
In this episode, Dr. Rick and I explore what daddy issues are, how they relate to attachment theory, sexism and the broader social and historical context, different forms of attachment wounding, and a simple way to understand your attachment style. We then walk through four common sets of symptoms and challenges related to attachment wounding, and what a person can do to move toward secure attachment.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:00: Question 1: Common characteristics of happy families
8:25: Differentiation and integration
10:55: Symptoms of a less healthy family system
12:15: The role of love
19:55: Question 2: What to do when people use psychological jargon during a conflict
26:00: Defending yourself effectively, and staying on topic
30:50: Question 3: Navigating different perceptions of a difficult event
35:45: Question 4: Healing a strained relationship with a child (or parent)
39:45: Functional repair before emotional vulnerability
46:45: “Going to zero” with behavior when repair is needed
56:10: Recap
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